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Special feature of 1905 film network“I am Iron man”。In April 2008, when Tony was holding a speech, he suddenly stopped, looked up at the reporter and said a word. At this point, the Marvel Universe officially opened.

Iron Man (2008)

In April 2019, Tony watched Thanos say this sentence again, and the first generation of superheroes in Marvel Comics also ended one by one.It can be said that in 10 years, Iron Man has become the soul of the Marvel universe. We watched him change from "a man with many personality defects" to a leader in The Avengers, and watched him save the world again and again, from a mortal to a "god".

Avengers 4 (2019)

In Avengers 4, he completed his final mission. There is no denying that he is already one of the most irreplaceable superheroes in the whole Marvel universe.Many people say that this is the first time that Marvel Comics didn’t add eggs at the end of the film. However, Xiao Dianjun doesn’t think so.

In fact, there was a piece of music in the background when the word "Marvel Studio" appeared at the end of the film. There are 12 sounds: ding, ding, ding, ding … … These 12 sounds are the sound of striking the iron. It is the sound when Tony is trapped in a cave and makes the first generation of Iron Man mecha in Iron Man.

Iron Man (2008)

Looking back, the first generation of six superheroes, the United States team will never forget the past, Raytheon gradually became a "giant baby", the Hulk was trapped in some kind of predicament and couldn’t get out, no matter how popular Hawkeye and Black Widow were, Marvel didn’t give them enough scenes to develop more personal characteristics.It seems that only Iron Man is endowed with muscle and bone, blood and flesh. As the film says, he has a warm heart.

Tony Stark has changed from a flower in the eyes of everyone at first to the Iron Man today. In the Marvel universe, he is like Spider-Man’s father. Spider-Man’s sentence, "The greater the ability, the greater the responsibility", was also perfectly projected on Iron Man, which also helped him become the central figure of MUC.

Even the subtitle of Avengers 4, "endgame", is from Iron Man.

* The article contains light spoilers, so please read carefully.

Absent fatherly love

It’s not Iron Man that just appeared in front of everyone, but Tony Stark. There are many labels on him: conceit, frivolous, playboy … … It is really difficult to be associated with "responsibility".

(2010)

In the eyes of this rich man and young man, his own arms industry defends national freedom, safeguards national interests and serves peace, which is an extremely just cause. As everyone knows, he has long been targeted by terrorists and wants to borrow his hand to start a war.In fact, all this is inseparable from the early death of Tony’s young parents.

After World War II, Tony’s father — — Howard Stark and Agent Carter (Captain America’s long-cherished lover) jointly founded S.H.I.E.L.D.

(2014)　

Tony Stark was born in 1969.Before Tony was born, Howard had been studying reactors with Soviet Anton Fanko. However, Fanke hoped to make a profit from the reactor, which was opposed by Howard. Subsequently, Fanke did many illegal operations alone and was deported for espionage.

In December 1991, the news reported that Howard and his wife both died in a car accident. But the truth didn’t take this order. They actually died at the hands of winter soldiers under the control of Hydra.After taking over the family business, Tony didn’t handle all the interpersonal relationships as well as his father. On the contrary, he is so conceited that even his friends around him bluntly say that he is an irresponsible person.

In 1999, Tony celebrated the New Year in Bern, Switzerland. At that time, it was nearly 10 years before he became Iron Man, but he succeeded in making enemies for himself because of his conceit.

At that time, Kirian hoped that Tony could support the "advanced intelligent machine" project of his organization AIM, but Tony played it mercilessly and stood it up. At the same time, female botanist Maya Hansen also showed her achievements to Tony — — Desperate virus But it turns out that Tony is more interested in Maya herself.

(2013)

Unexpectedly, Kirian and Maya joined forces to upgrade the desperate virus. This also laid the groundwork for Kirian’s subsequent revenge (Iron Man 3).

Become iron man

Proud Tony was kidnapped by the terrorist organization Ten Commandments in a diplomatic cooperation, and the leader asked Stark to make missiles for them. However, during the kidnapping, Stark almost died because he was shot too much in the chest. Dr. Ethan, a fellow hostage, installed a battery reactor on his chest to keep him alive.This also laid the foundation for him to become Iron Man.

In the cave, with the help of Ethan, Tony designed the first generation of Mark1 Iron Man armor and escaped smoothly. Tony, who successfully escaped, began to design a real suit for himself.

Iron Man (2008)

Mark2, the second type of battle armor, was later taken away by Lieutenant Colonel James Rhodes (iron man 2) and delivered to Hankmer Company for modification, with submachine guns installed in each hand and later renamed as "War Machine".

At the same time, Stark’s female assistant Pep (Pepper) discovers that all the kidnappings were planned by Stein, the second-in-command of Stark Industries.With the blessing of the newly developed Mark3 armor, Tony defeated Stein. All this made Tony gradually realize the problem of his identity, and also promoted him to admit that he was Iron Man at the press conference.

After the press conference, he met Nick Frey, director of SHIELD. The director said to him, "Do you think you are the only superhero in the world?" And began to tell him about that plan to set up The Avengers.

Iron Man (2008)

However, in the black widow’s report, Tony is not suitable to join The Avengers. At this time, the director decided to hire Stark as The Avengers’s consultant.It is true that after becoming Iron Man, Tony’s past conduct is hard for people to be absolutely convinced of him, and all the labels are still attached to him, waiting for him to tear them off little by little. For a long time, Iron Man has been paying for his past arrogance.

When the The Avengers Six assembled for the first time, everyone disdained each other, and various contradictions intensified inside. It was not until later that agent Coulson took his own death as a warning to unite the Avengers.

Post-iron man era

"Did I make armor, or did armor make me?"After new york War (The Avengers 1), Tony suffered from insomnia and anxiety. He devoted all his time to making a large number of different types of armor and collecting them in the hidden hangar of his seaside mansion. During that time, he was even a little paranoid, and he ignored the feelings of the people closest to him.

Iron Man 3 (2013)

It was not until pepper was infected with the desperate virus (Iron Man 3) that he reacted to the people around him. It was also at that time that Tony removed the virus from pepper by surgery. At the same time, I also performed surgery for myself and took out the bullet shrapnel that had been left in my chest.The whole operation was probably the most comfortable experience for Tony since he became Iron Man. Even he said, "I tell you, it was the best sleep I’ve had in years."

After that, Tony no longer relied on the reactor to sustain life, but used it as the power of armor. At this time, he has been integrated with steel armor. Even if he doesn’t have armor, he is still Iron Man.

However, Tony is still uneasy about the safety of mankind.In fact, at this time, the opinions of Iron Man and Captain America have already diverged. Captain America is an emergency hero, and Iron Man bears the responsibility of nip in the bud. At this time, he is not the overconfident Tony who believes that "the enemy will block, there is water to cover".

After new york War, Tony always wanted to apply the power of the gem to his armor when he brought it home. He developed Ultron, an artificial intelligence with thinking ability and self-awareness. However, Ultron has Tony’s paranoia. He thinks that the first step to achieve world peace is to destroy the Avengers.

Ultron stole the jewel of the soul and created a stronger body for himself. Captain America and the black widow appeared, and after a fierce battle, they took the trunk and gave it to Iron Man.Unlike other people who want to destroy the body, Tony wants to upload his artificial intelligence Jarvis to this body. This behavior was opposed by Captain America, but finally in the tug-of-war, Raytheon injected the force of lightning into his body, and the body was activated under overload.

At this time, a brand-new superhero illusion was born.

Jarvis, the artificial housekeeper, no longer exists, and Tony started a brand-new artificial housekeeper — — Friday.

Civil war era

After new york War and Socovia War, the infighting between Iron Man and Captain America became more and more obvious. At the same time, Secretary of State Ross held a meeting in The Avengers, denouncing the damages to life and property caused by the actions of the Avengers.The United Nations decided to draft the Sokovia Agreement, which stipulated that The Avengers would no longer be a private organization, and their actions would be supervised by the United Nations, and they could only act with consent.

At this time, the acceptors represented by Iron Man and the opposition represented by Captain America formed absolute opposition.Tony thinks that without supervision, it is really easy to create bad consequences. For him, no matter what the starting point is, at least Ultron is his dislocation.However, Captain America doesn’t think that he didn’t make a mistake, and the SHIELD he served was once controlled by Hydra, which made him unable to trust the government.

As everyone knows, behind everything, there are others who stand in the way and alienate the relationship between The Avengers. But for Tony, he couldn’t let go at all, and found that his parents died not in a car accident in 1991, but at the hands of winter soldiers.

Even though The Avengers broke up completely, Captain America still left Tony a flip phone. "Although the alliance broke up, if you need me in the future, I will always help."

(2017)

He is the gentlest person.

In fact, Tony Stark has been using the dual architecture technology of virtual reality, constantly recreating the situation of his parents getting along with themselves before their death, in order to treat his long-term incurable bereavement.Iron man always shows the strongest side to everyone, but in fact, he also has a soft place in his heart. He left this tenderness to Pepper and peter parker — — Spider-Man.

He always treated peter parker like a father, worried about his accident, always reminded him not to cross the line, and even warned him by taking back Spider-Man’s shirt.

(2017)

Later, when he invited Parker to join The Avengers, he was rejected, and Tony made another big news for reporters — — Propose to his girlfriend pepper, and the long-distance love run for many years has finally come to a satisfactory end.After getting married, Iron Man seems to be soft and responsible, but the conceit of the past has long been invisible to him. In the end, when Captain America came to him to save the world, he had only one request, "It won’t affect my family now."

But in the end, many people were disappointed. The family was not affected, but he himself could never come back.I still remember when the alliance was first established, Captain America directly choked Iron Man, "You are not the kind of person who will make sacrifices".

But in the end, it was Iron Man who sacrificed again and again.The hand of the new york War, and finally the nuclear bomb struck, Iron Man did not hesitate to carry the nuclear bomb through the wormhole when the armor energy was insufficient to return;

(2012)

In order to prevent Sokovia from falling, he resolutely released energy at the bottom of the meteorite and detonated the city;

(2015)

Needless to say, even with a family, in order to save the whole world, we should take the initiative to enter the alien spacecraft alone. As for whether he can come back or not, in fact, he is not sure himself.Tony faced these dangers again and again, and after what he experienced, he became more and more soft. But, anyway, he is under pressure by that so-called responsibility. Just because he is Iron Man.

But this time, he can really put it down, and he can sleep longer and be more stable.

In order to highlight the health orientation, achieve a good score, pay attention to science, foundation and fairness … … A few days ago, Beijing Education Examinations Institute announced the Scoring Standard for Physical Education and Health Assessment of Compulsory Education in Beijing (hereinafter referred to as "Scoring Standard"), and the senior high school entrance examination in 2024 began to apply.

Scientific formulation and highlighting health orientation

It is understood that in December 2021, the Beijing Municipal Education Commission issued the "Beijing Compulsory Education Physical Education and Health Assessment Scheme" (hereinafter referred to as the "Evaluation Scheme"), which not only increased the process assessment, but also greatly adjusted the content of the on-site examination, further expanded the number of items, and adopted the method of classification and selection restriction, which divided four categories and set up 22 examination contents, of which the first category (quality item 1) middle and long-distance running events (.

According to reports, the total score of Beijing compulsory education physical education and health assessment is 70 points, including 40 points for process assessment and 30 points for on-site examination. Compared with the original on-the-spot physical education entrance examination items, on the one hand, the original item standards were adjusted scientifically, including five items: 1000m for boys, 800m for girls, pull-ups, sit-ups and solid balls, among which four items, 1000m for boys, 800m for girls, pull-ups and sit-ups, were also tested in the National Physical Health Standards for Students (revised in 2014). On the basis of comprehensive analysis of the data of physical education senior high school entrance examination, sampling test and unified test since 2017, according to the national students’ physical health standards, it is adjusted according to the principle of "reaching good is full score". Among them, girls are 800 meters, 3 minutes and 55 seconds, and boys are 1000 meters, 4 minutes and 05 seconds, which is the perfect score. On the other hand, the standards for newly added items are formulated scientifically, and the 17 newly added items are also formulated in accordance with the principle of "reaching good marks means full marks", with reference to the National Physical Training Standards, sports-related standards for senior high school entrance examinations in other provinces and cities, empirical data analysis and expert argumentation opinions. The new project is not more difficult than the original project. For example, skipping rope 180 times a minute is a perfect score.

According to the relevant person in charge of the Beijing Municipal Education Commission, the formulation of scoring standards is consistent with the original intention of the reform of physical education and health assessment, that is, taking exams and scoring are by no means an end, but as a carrier to guide children to form good healthy living habits and truly realize the enjoyment, physical fitness, sound personality and temper will in sports. At the same time, we should pay attention to science, foundation and fairness, consider the diversity of choices and individual differences, weaken the pressure, reduce the difference of scores, strengthen the process, and encourage participation.

Repeatedly demonstrate and solicit suggestions from many parties.

According to reports, in order to ensure the scientificity and rationality of the standards, on the one hand, comprehensive empirical data were analyzed in depth during the development process, and the on-site examination data of physical education senior high school entrance examination over the years since 2017 were analyzed in depth from the existing physical education senior high school entrance examination standards and national standards, and with reference to sampling, unified measurement and other relevant standards in provinces and cities. At the same time, some schools and students are collected and analyzed in stages as a reference for standard formulation. On the other hand, the Beijing Academy of Educational Sciences organized a team of special-grade teachers and backbone teachers to participate in the development of the grading standards. At the same time, experts in education, sports and health, adolescent physical health, education policy and law in the think tank of education reform experts further calibrated the grading standards with the overall direction and macro requirements of education reform in the capital, and repeatedly demonstrated and improved them.

Optimize the group examination and do a good job in service guarantee.

According to the introduction of Beijing Education Examinations Institute, fully considering the characteristics of many examination items, many candidates’ choice combinations, and different requirements for venues in each project group, the examination arrangement will be more scientific and standardized, and the examination room will be arranged according to the candidates’ choice combinations and the characteristics of each project. Generally speaking, the swimming event will be arranged in an independent unit (one unit every half day) for examination, and all other examination items will be completed in two similar units.

In the examination organization, it will be more rigorous and meticulous. Each district will prepare a special examination place (test center) for the examination, and organize the implementation according to the principle of "unified examination time, unified examination items, unified examination rules, unified grading standards, unified venue equipment settings and equipment standards". Candidates can learn about the examination arrangements of their chosen projects in time through junior high schools before the examination, so as to get ready. In the implementation of the examination, it will be more efficient and orderly. Each test center has relevant areas such as candidate assembly area, preparation area, examination area and rescue area, reasonably arrange the examination venues and equipment for each project, and scientifically plan the examination path. During the examination, candidates will be organized and guided by special personnel according to the project and grouping situation to ensure that candidates complete the examination according to the optimization process.

Regarding the push of test information that parents and candidates are concerned about, Beijing Education Examinations Institute said that each candidate who takes the test can choose the test items independently according to the requirements of the implementation plan of physical education examination (the preliminary plan of the option is arranged at the end of this semester), and after each district completes the test preparation (usually in March), the information such as the test time, test location and test item arrangement will be notified to each candidate in time through junior high schools, so that candidates can prepare for the test. Specific arrangements and relevant requirements will also be informed to candidates and parents in advance through the school.

Home-school cooperation serves children’s healthy growth

According to the relevant person in charge of the Beijing Municipal Education Commission, the on-site examination has further expanded the number of items in order to give more children the opportunity to take the examination with their favorite and best items, so as to stimulate the endogenous motivation of children’s physical exercise and test their health, sports ability and sports interest. At the same time, it also advocates that schools and families actively create an atmosphere of physical exercise, and parents should accompany their children to participate in some physical exercise activities.

According to reports, after the announcement of the scoring standard, a comprehensive and systematic policy interpretation and training will be carried out. On the one hand, the policy content, the considerations behind it, and the significance to the healthy growth and all-round development of children will be accurately and comprehensively conveyed to teachers and students’ parents; On the other hand, training guidance will be strengthened, and the school will guide every child and every family to make project selection and corresponding preparations.

(CCTV reporter Pan Hongxu Dai Qinfu)

I have to say that this wave of operation of FAW is really 6, who would have thought that the ip of Xiaoma Baoli could be visualized.

On October 28th, FAW Pentium joined hands with the world’s super-popular IP pony Baoli to officially launch the Pentium pony 222km long-life model-Smart Horse and Lightning Horse, with the price of 36,900 yuan and 39,900 yuan. The whole car system covers the price range of 24,900-39,900 yuan, and both models have the longest cruising range of 222km in the same class.

Xiaoma Baoli is a girl-oriented IP created by American toy company Hasbro in 1980s. As one of the world’s classic popular IP, Pony Baoli is popular in more than 70 countries around the world, featuring six cute ponies with distinctive personality and lively and playful, telling the story that "friendship is magic" and conveying the positive image of "dream, creativity, kindness, courage and self-confidence".

FAW Pentium officially announced a joint venture with Hasbro’s super-popular brand Xiaoma Baoli, and released the first creative animation video of "Pentium Xiaoma X Xiaoma Baoli". With Xiaoma Baoli as a bridge to hold hands with users, we can find "happiness and courage" together with users, and convey a positive and positive attitude towards life through the film.

This time, Pentium Pony has become popular in more than 70 countries around the world hand in hand, and Hasbro’s super-popular IP Pony Baoli, which is highly sought after by women, has gathered the super-high traffic of two "online celebrity Ponies", and MengMeng has joined hands to bring more vitality.

Different from the square box design of many micro-electric vehicles at present, Pentium Pony has realized a smart body with a length, width and height of 3000mmX1510mmX1630 mm from the aesthetic point of view of female users. The whole vehicle surface is round and full, and the curves are smooth and beautiful.

The Pentium Pony version has the longest cruising range of 222km at the same level, and the fast charging function is upgraded. The battery life is increased by 100km after charging for one hour, which brings the power output upgrade. It is equipped with 30kW mainstream high-power motor and ramp auxiliary function at the same level, and it is easy to Hold the whole scene of uphill, elevated and basement.

In addition, Pentium Pony is fully prepared in the surrounding area. Incorporating brand elements to customize rare joint flash cards, the card collection has more value-added surprises to unlock, setting off a storm of trend card collection. At the same time, the "Pony Baoli" co-branded set snapped up in a limited time includes car stickers, floor mats and other small things around the tide, allowing users to decorate their own pony, which is cute everywhere and necessary for pony girls.

The boring soul is the same, and the interesting cute pet is one in a million. Pentium Pony Long Life is a gift to all cute friends, so that you who love life can bloom warmly every time you travel. I wonder if the princesses in front of the screen are excited!

Hu Ge, Gui Lunmei

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Diao Yinan

　　　　　　 On December 6, the movie "The Wild Goose Lake" held a special premiere in Shanghai, starring Hu Ge and Gui Lunmei, and director Diao Yinan appeared in the studio to interact with fans. Hu Ge expressed excitement on stage that because his father was also present, he was very nervous, and said that he often came to Shanghai Studios to watch movies since he was a child. He once hoped that one day his poster could be hung in the cinema. "Today, I have my family to witness this dream come true. I am very happy." When talking about the hardships of filming, Hu Ge said bluntly, "During the escape process, I suffered so many sins and suffered so much. If I don’t experience these things, even I don’t believe that I am him. How can the audience believe it?"

??This time the film came to Shanghai, and the star Hu Ge, who returned to the "home", was very excited, because this was not only his dream come true, but also the first time his family participated in his post-screening activities. "To be honest, this is the first time my father and my family have gone to the cinema to meet after the screening, and I am very excited, because I have made relatively few movies (laughs). Yesterday and today, I have been running movie theaters in Shanghai, and Shanghai Cinema is also a place where I would come to watch movies since I was a child. I used to hope that one day my poster could be hung in the cinema. Today, I brought this movie back to my home, which can be said to be a dream come true, and I can witness this moment with my family."

??Talking about the deeper meaning of the characters in the film, Hu Ge said: "From these little characters on the edge, I see that every individual is equal, has the instinct to survive, and struggles with fate. At the same time, we can also see the warmth of them and the brilliance of humanity in this process. Although it is such a character who is very far away from me and unfamiliar, I can still be deeply moved by them." When asked about the hardships of filming, Hu Ge believes that it is necessary to go through these to convince the characters. "For every actor, to create a realistic character, we must go through these processes. During the escape process, I suffered so much sin and suffered so much. If I don’t experience this, even I don’t believe that I am him, how can the audience believe it?"

??Gui Lunmei also shared her own understanding: "The most fascinating thing about Liu Aiai’s character to me is that it is a little different from the style of the swimming escort and the special industry in everyone’s impression. She still maintains a very simple part. In the end, her moral choice comes from the simplicity of her nature and her belief in everything."

??Faced with the audience’s conjectures about the meaning of doves, airplanes and other images in the film, the director Diao Yinan personally interpreted: "Zhou Zenong has his own special things in his heart, and may also yearn for freedom, but he is unwilling to release these things on the surface, deep in the inner feeling. And when he holds a gun in the hallucination and looks at the dark blue in the sky, it seems to suck him deeply in, which may also be his deep yearning for the blue." Diao Yinan also encouraged everyone: "You must interact with this film through images to speculate on the information given to you by each image."

After "Fifty Kilometers of Peach Blossom House" was broadcast in the first season, the awkward social interaction between Song Dandan and young people triggered a heated discussion. Since the second season of "Fifty Kilometers of Peach Blossom House" was broadcast, Eric Wang has become the only guest who has been shut out by Song Dandan. The life scene with the nature of the workplace has been constantly enlarged under the lens, and the misplaced intervention of the concept of the order of the young and the old has finally staged a situation of "countless minutes of embarrassment" led by Song Dandan. The high-density stalk-making ability and variety scenes in Taohuawu are even compared to the replica of Flowers and Teenagers 2, which will once again push Song Dandan, as the focus figure, to the forefront.

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"Nine Minutes of Awkwardness in Peach Blossom House" was pushed to the hot search, and Song Dandan became the storm point of this embarrassing incident.

To put it simply, the second season of "Fifty Kilometers of Peach Blossom House" was initially made like a meeting for newcomers to the workplace. This season’s program not only involves performance appraisal, but even "democratic voting" to send the guests with the lowest contribution value to the uninhabited island.

The life scene with the nature of the workplace has been constantly enlarged under the lens, and the misplaced intervention of the concept of the order of the young and the old has finally staged a situation of "countless minutes of embarrassment" led by Song Dandan.

The high-density stalk-making ability and variety scenes in Taohuawu are even compared to the replica of Flowers and Teenagers 2, which will once again push Song Dandan, as the focus figure, to the forefront.

△ Image content: Song Dandan forces everyone to dance in groups.

Song Dandan’s condescending speech with elders’ color was criticized for "selling the old by leaning on the old", including the bonfire party arranged by force in the program and the social terrorism activities from women’s group dance to group dance, but there were also criticisms on the understanding of the intergenerational gap between Song Dandan and young people, the recognition of efficient communication, and the push-pull vague speech of other guests (except Eric Wang).

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As early as the first season, Song Dandan’s awkward social interaction with young people triggered a heated discussion. The appearance of Eric Wang this season exposed the social problems of Song Dandan and other young guests. Eric Wang, who has received much attention and controversy because of ipartment, can be regarded as a "model" with strong personal will and self-persistence. Since the second season of "Fifty Kilometers of Peach Blossom House" was broadcast, Eric Wang has become the only guest who has been shut out by Song Dandan.

Obviously, under the social norms embedded by the concept of the order of the young and the old as the underlying logic, it is not simple for the younger generation to balance truth and confront paternalistic authority in a discourse circle full of workplace meaning, but in a collective community basically composed of young people,Paternalistic speech and subjective intimacy can not simply be attributed to the intergenerational gap.

Transferring the truth and keeping it true

The real boundary in the collective discourse circle

In the collective community,Transferring the truth becomes a kind of safety fence for self-protection.

Song Dandan’s paternalistic speech and performance-oriented program arrangement made this variety show a career test. This also means that young guests are bound to face a difficult choice: one is to disobey parents’ authority but be criticized. For example, Li Xueqin suggested that everyone should not rob the job, and Song Dandan immediately refuted and criticized it after a reasonable division of labor; The other is to transfer one’s true thoughts to conform to the group norms led by Song Dandan.

Obviously, most of the guests chose the latter. In fact,In the situation of collective expression or even collective aphasia, surrendering the truth becomes the best measure to escape the pressure. By surrendering the truth, the guests create their own security boundary.However, the security boundary shaped by individuals themselves is weak and narrow, which can’t withstand the impact and blow from the top pressure, and even further encourages the overlooking from the top.

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Obviously, transferring the truth is not an effective and reasonable way of collective discourse expression.In pushing and pulling, it not only intensifies the contradiction itself, but also wears away the power that really dares to refuse.In the presentation of the program, the real voice needs two factors, one is the absolute authority and the confidence given by the authority, the other is the paid warmth and collective voice without the authority.

As an old guest who has participated in the first season of the program, Song Dandan is carrying a kind of overlooking psychology of "I have more experience", and her paternalistic authority and the intervention of leadership thoughts are more reasonable to promote the attitude of "I should lead the overall situation". At the same time, it is obvious that the newcomers who just met can’t gather quickly and form a consistent resistance strategy in a short time, which also makes Song Dandan’s voice more and more intense while other guests can only listen to the arrangement.

△ Image content: Song Dandan proposed to hold a party.

It can be seen that the group norms of respecting elders and giving priority to experience in the program have become a chain that binds young guests, and the blade behind it is constantly wearing away and consuming their true selves.

On the surface, it is Song Dandan’s criticism that makes others breathless.Behind it, it profoundly reflects the helplessness of other young guests in the face of paternalistic authority and the reluctance to surrender the truth and conform to the norms.

Some netizens even commented that "if it is quiet, it will be different."

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Through the embarrassing nine minutes, we can see,In the collective discourse circle, the real boundary always gives way to the existing social norms or those shaped and formed by others to a certain extent.As the only Eric Wang who firmly refused Song Dandan’s arrangement, he won the applause of other guests, but others still couldn’t escape the arranged bonfire party and group dance.

What needs to be broken from transferring the truth to maintaining the truth is not only the shell of self-protection, but also the iron wall formed by existing norms.

Fuzzy intergenerational gap

True paternalistic authority

Undeniably, paternalistic authority is vividly interpreted in Song Dandan. The unspoken "I’m good for you" is vividly presented in Song Dandan’s lecture hall on marriage experience and life principles.

In the program, Song Dandan tells his own experience, which is classified as inferiority complex. namely"People’s strong inferiority complex will make you very rude inexplicably, so when someone is rude to me, I think he must be too inferior."

△ Image source: Song Dandan’s inferiority theory

It is naturally inappropriate to discuss this truth out of context, but in the collective community dominated by Song Dandan at that time, some netizens could not help but put this truth in the existing relationship, seeing it as a way for Song Dandan to establish and maintain its own authority, and even slightly smacked of PUA.

For example, "Li Xueqin was rude to me, so Li Xueqin felt inferior".

Regardless of whether the logical transformation from "inferiority leads to rudeness" to "you are rude to me, so you feel inferior" is smooth or not, such truth and expression actually contain hidden authoritarian ideas and commanding consciousness.

When forming a new collective, establishing authority is the first task of such elders. At the same time, the formation of Song Dandan’s natural leadership situation also proves that the establishment of authority is unnecessary. In the "inferiority theory" she conveyed,I am also rationalizing my psychological burden and strengthening the personality trial of "inferiority" that the younger generation needs to bear for being rude to her.

This proves that,Long-term paternalistic authority has become a habit and a matter of course, spreading around like cells integrated into capillaries.

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However, it is obviously inappropriate to blur such behavior with forced guidance into an intergenerational gap. Even from the idea of "for everyone’s good",Song Dandan’s self-identity and self-dedication, which obviously bears the imprint of the times, will inevitably hit a wall in the social circle dominated by the younger generation.

For example, in the part of holding a bonfire party and performing a program, the problem is not only that singing and dancing is no longer the first choice for the younger generation to break the ice, but also the oppressive feeling that Song Dandan forcefully binds others together on the grounds of "group building".The friction behind this and the audience’s anger were not that Song Dandan proposed to hold a bonfire party, but forced others to participate in it.

△ Image content: Dylan, Li Xueqin opposed the bonfire party

If surrendering the truth is the self-protection and compromise of the younger generation in the face of paternalistic authority, thenIt is Song Dandan’s responsibility to build his own authority blindly in dealing with young people.

In the collective life composed of young people, it is the correct starting point to integrate into dialogue. Equating experience with life experience, and molding one’s absolute authority on this ground is actually to further widen the intergenerational gap, and also to throw off the responsibility that one should bear in integrating into the new social rules.

It is much simpler to simply export ideas than to change behaviors. Song Dandan chose to form a collective around himself by creating authority. On the one hand, he was afraid that the patriarchal ideology in the traditional concept would be impacted and his position would be impacted. On the other hand, he was afraid that he would be difficult to integrate into the collective formed by young people.

Obviously, the generational divide cannot be a shield for paternalistic authority, and the gap that has already formed also needs to be changed by the elders.

Light produces shadows, but shadows follow light. Listening and dialogue can win the recognition of the younger generation more than instilling stories.

△ Image content: Song Dandan criticized everyone

Beyond parental authority and intergenerational conflict

Can you spy on an intimate relationship?

Song Dandan’s speech drew the audience back to "Family with Children" overnight, showing a kind of intimate relationship between mother and child/mother and daughter that she wanted to build.

Song Dandan was given an intimate perspective on the childhood filter with children at home, but after too oppressive "doting", intimate relationship became another generation term of suffocation.

In such a dialogue and exchange, the oppressive and compulsory export of the concept of elders makes the intimate relationship give way to the superficial discipline and conflict.But what is undeniable behind it is the goodwill from the perspective of self.For example, the initial intention of Song Dandan’s proposal for the party was to quickly narrow the distance between the guests, but there was a deviation in the choice of ways.

△ Image content: The initial intention of holding a party in Song Dandan

Aside from the specific realistic situation, the original intention of the elders is naturally to consider their younger generation, but the misplaced background of the times and the embedding of role identity make the original intention of the elders distorted in the process of communication.Behind it also reflects a kind of intergenerational trauma that continues in society.

Intergenerational trauma refers to the trauma that is transferred from the first generation of survivors of traumatic events to their next generation or the next generation through the mechanism of PTSD, which is manifested in excessive control or the transmission of social norms and beliefs.

When contemporary trauma becomes a microcosm of the times, elders hope to pass on their own trauma in the process of growing up, resulting in a forced discipline and output. "Fulfilling my (parents’) wishes" is a simple manifestation of intergenerational trauma.Adding what you think is right or wrong to the younger generation blindly has become a way for elders to heal their own wounds but express goodwill inappropriately.

△ Image content: Song Dandan provides marriage advice to Dong Xuan.

However, the intimate relationship without the connection of blood and kinship in the program obviously cannot quickly run into the contradictions brought about by the intergenerational gap. The expression of intimate relationship will inevitably give way to the community with interest attributes.

This also shows that when the intimate relationship with self-awareness of elders is rejected, we should reflect on whether it is in line with the public interest in the process of establishing intimate relationships. Simply put,The intimate relationship formed by Song Dandan’s self-identity collides with the newly formed public community with interest attributes, and the already misplaced and untimely intimate relationship is more prominent in the conflict of interests.

The intergenerational gap is the product of the times, which is difficult to bridge in a short time, but changing paternalistic authority can make the communication of intimate relationship more open and direct. Breaking the parental filter of "I am good for you", the true colors of the younger generation are equally colorful.

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