Special feature of 1905 film network The film tells the story of Bai Xiaoyu and Wang Jinjin, lovers who know each other and fall in love. They have known each other for eight years and have been in love for five years, and they have a common minority interest. Their initial love is particularly fresh and has endless topics to talk about. As this relationship slowly entered the fifth year, the love between the two changed from common ownership to differentiated sweetness, and setbacks followed.
In this program, emotional blogger Alice is invited to answer some questions about love with the story of Bai Xiaoyu and Wang Jinjin through the movie "You Lost by Me".
Grasp the universal love story of young people at present
Bai Xiaoyu and Wang Jin Jin two young people are facing two things at the same time.
The first one is the change from student days to social identity. Which city to live in, what kind of occupation to choose, how to establish yourself professionally, and how to start love under the burden of life … … Each of these is a very difficult challenge for young people.
The second problem is the difference between two people in love. In the movies, Bai Xiaoyu and Wang Jinjin have experienced some puzzles, such as different family of origin, inconsistent work pace, different places, unsynchronized work progress and inconsistent circle of friends, which are actually common problems that young people will encounter at present.
In this regard, emotional blogger Sisi thinks: "The so-called common hobby is a kind of common consumption. It is easy for a young person to spend together, but it is difficult for two people to create together in a relationship of affection." In their relationship, the boy Bai Xiaoyu wants to maintain the status quo with the woman more, and we live in Beijing safely; The girl Wang Jinjin’s wish is to fly higher and want her name to appear in the first column of the screenwriter’s signature. So what really knocked them down was the inconsistency.
Young people in love can’t see others or themselves?
In a love relationship, it is often only when you can see the other person’s contribution that you can see your own contribution and enter a benign balance.
At present, everyone is facing so many difficulties in life that it is difficult to put two people on the same plane calmly under the shackles, and the "two-way trip" for the sake of each other is becoming less and less common.
There is a paragraph in the film that echoes this. Wang Jinjin and Bai Xiaoyu pour all their dissatisfaction into a quarrel because of the trivial matter of "forgetting to bring their keys".
"I have put up with you for a long time!"
"I have put up with you for a long time!"
With the roar of kicking the wall, the feelings of the two people gradually peeled off and collapsed. Young people may think that I tolerate you in emotional relationships because I care about you. But the truth is that both sides may be patient, and the contradiction is getting deeper and deeper in patience.
Because in the new love relationship, "my" self is clearer than ever, and "your" self is bound to compromise in the process of colliding with your other half. It must be that two people collide with each other and interact with each other.
At this time, whether you can hear others, see others and work hard for the common relationship between two people is also a test of young people’s love. At this level, You Lost by Me is of great reference significance to the current young people’s view of love.
In addition to the previous level, "You Lost by Me" actually explains the parts that two people need to build, understand and support each other in love. Wang Jinjin and Bai Xiaoyu became attached to each other because of a small horror writer, which is actually a very good emotional base for couples — — Common interests.
Common hobbies can make two people have a common language to a great extent, and then it is easier to understand each other. But if we are connected with life, we need to understand each other’s living habits and work life. Two people should use communication to build an intersection, and jointly build high-rise buildings on this intersection.
Wang Jinjin made a change after realizing that the boy Bai Xiaoyu was indispensable in her life. She came to the secret room built by the boy for the girl and was willing to repair the relationship with the boy. What the audience sees from this is the growth of a girl. When you are really willing to grow up and see others, life will also give you feedback and gifts.
Love well in love, and live well in love.
Many people think that love has no answer, but in the movie, Bai Xiaoyu’s father seems to give the audience an answer. What is real life? It’s trivial. Real life can’t appear in vanity fair, and it can’t exist on the road paved with red carpets.
In fact, love is not special at all. It doesn’t mean that a handsome guy/beautiful woman falls from the sky and loves me unconditionally, so I can be complete. In love, I also want to learn how to love each other and how to run a long-term relationship.
What do you mean by living in love and loving each other in life? Is our way of life, is to build our own life with my lover.
Love is never great, it is the same as all relationships. Today, I personally created the life I like. I no longer wait for love to fall from the sky, and I no longer wait for the other half to manage it well and enjoy it alone.
Love is holding TA’s hand and creating our life together.
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